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The Emotional Olympics of Being the Last Single One

What happens when you’re the last single cousin standing at weddings, engagements, and baby showers? It’s not just the comments—it’s the anticipation of them that can burn you out. In this bonus episode of the Burnout Proof Podcast, I get raw about navigating family pressure, defending life choices, and the emotional weight of being “different.” If you’ve ever felt like the black sheep—or wondered if you’re behind—you’ll find yourself in this one.

🎧 Listen now and get the permission slip you didn’t know you needed:
When Your Nervous System Just Says “Nope” (Stress vs. Burnout)

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Teasing is Earned. It isn't a First Date Free-For-All

Ever had someone start teasing you on a first date—and it didn’t land?

Yeah, me too.

This week, I’m diving into the weird little world of early relationship ribbing. Because I don’t care how many dating podcasts say "banter is flirting"—if I just met you, and you're already poking fun at my tattoos or my career? We're not flirting. You're being disrespectful.

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The Weirdest Niche Dating Apps You Didn't Know Existed

What do you do when a date isn’t bad… but isn’t great either? In this week’s episode of the You’re Too Picky podcast, I break down a date that was the definition of “meh.” No sparks, no drama—just two hours of pizza, coffee, and a guy who could only talk about food.

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The Weirdest Niche Dating Apps You Didn't Know Existed

In this episode of You're Too Picky, I'm taking you on a wild ride through the most bizarre and hyper-specific dating apps and groups I could find across North America. Think ghost dating, clown dating, conspiracy-theorist matchmaking, and apps based on your salad order. I'm serious.

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Stage 3 Clinger or Just Patriotic? The Saga of Fourth of July Guy

In this episode of the You're Too Picky podcast, I’m throwing it back to exactly one year ago when I met a guy on the 4th of July—and it somehow turned into four months of lukewarm texting, weird memes, and “are you free right now?” phone calls.

This guy? Not quite a stage 5 clinger. More like a solid stage 3. But it got weird. From Insta-stalking my stories to texting me at 5:45 AM with “we should do attractive things,” it was a slow, cringe-filled spiral that ended with him texting me TWO months after I said I wasn’t interested. Bro. Take the L.

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My Mom is Setting Me Up. Rock Bottom?

In this episode of the You're Too Picky Podcast, I'm talking about a wild (or just interesting...?) update: my MOM wants to set me up on a blind date.

Is this what hitting dating rock bottom looks like—or is it the start of a Hallmark movie arc? I'm spilling the tea on the text that started it all, her mixed feelings about community matchmaking, and why she's both mortified and lowkey into it.

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Single in Israel, Single in the States. (ft. Michal Kaye)

Welcome back to the You’re Too Picky Podcast— helping you date, not settle.

I'm sitting down with my friend Michal Kaye, a single Jewish woman living in Israel, to unpack what dating looks like across generations, cultures, and belief systems—yet feels remarkably the same.

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Pay-to-Play Love? Dating Apps, I’m Looking at You

Someone recently said, “It’s not the apps—it’s the people on them.” My response? Nah. It’s the apps.

And this episode is the full rant you’ve been waiting for. Today, we’re breaking down exactly how dating apps have gone from cute convenience to full-blown pay-to-play chaos—and why that shift is making it way harder to find anything real.

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Dating From a Burned Out Place (It’s Not Just You)

Ever walked away from a “perfectly nice” date and still felt off about it? That’s not you being dramatic—it’s your intuition doing its job.

In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) moments when your gut speaks up and what it actually looks like to listen.

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Male Loneliness Epidemic, My Ass.

This one’s fresh off a 2000s dance party—and I’ve got a hot take for the men still standing on the sidelines. If you've ever looked around the club and thought, “Why do all these men look like they were dragged here against their will?”—same, babe.

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